It’s been a long time since I read Gary Chapman’s book on the 5 love languages, and I feel like I’m due for a refresh. That book is so helpful in helping to determine the ways in which we show and receive love, and how best to show it to others around us. In case you’ve never read the book, his 5 five love languages are: physical contact, words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, and acts of service.
My love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, and acts of service. I like to express my feelings in writing and to encourage others that way. Which is why I enjoy putting hearts on the kids bedroom doors every day during February, expressing something I love about them. I also express it by making food for someone, offering to help in some way, or getting together for a lunch date. My favorite way to receive love? I’m not too picky- smile at me, tell me something encouraging, buy me the smallest gift, make me a cup of coffee, give me a hug….I will feel 100% loved. It doesn’t take much.
Ben’s love languages are the same as mine. We’re not PDA people, and never have been (my family can attest to this😂). But we love doing things together: traveling, watching the same shows/movies, doing various activities, and working on church outreaches. We like to relax in the hot tub together after the kids are in bed and solve all the world’s problems. He also gives me a foot massage almost every night. That’s true love right there.
All of our kids love physical contact. They are huggers, snugglers, and love getting massages. In addition to that, they have other love languages as well:
Claire- quality time
Max- receiving gifts
Grace- words of affirmation
Tess- just give her what she wants and buy her all the toys. #fourthkid
And I’m curious….what makes you feel loved?
I can attest that you and Ben are for sure not PDA a people lol
Grace looks so big putting on her lipstick and Tessa’s face–classical Tess. Love it!